Recently in our community there was a question about where to look for guys older than 27 years: “I understand that in our age of lazy princesses such messages cause a rush of hands to our faces. But let's not apply past experience to a specific situation? I'm not a fan of Mercedes "I don’t need a daddy. I don’t use Life around as a dating site like“ take me someone married! “. I just want to find a social circle of this age."
The topic immediately became one of the most popular in the community, collecting more than 500 comments. After some time, a topic appeared about where to look for girls who are looking for men older than 27 years. And then the two groups came together, created the VKontakte group and even made the first meeting - in Gorky Park. By nine in the evening on Friday, the fountain had about forty people, with almost as many men as girls. Life around correspondent Olesya Shmagun also came to this meeting to see how many people would like to get out of the Internet into reality and what is wrong with dating in a big city.
26 years old, director of a perfume shop
We just wanted to troll the girl who started the first topic.
But when the topic gained such popularity and the meeting began to peck, we became interested
“I’m under 27, and I also have a girlfriend, so I can’t be here at all. But I came with a friend who, in fact, fueled the discussion, he started a topic“ Where are the girls who are looking for guys older than 27 years. "Honestly, we just wanted to troll the girl who started the first topic. But when the topic became so popular and the meeting began to hive, we wondered who would go there, and we also decided to show ourselves. Maybe, deep down, my friend just hesitated to admit that he was really interested It was about to get to know this girl.
I don’t see any problems getting to know each other in the city. I met my girlfriend on the beach. And the girls in this regard are even easier. Because if a guy doesn’t fit well, he says something wrong when he met, then everything breaks down, and if a guy likes a girl, then whatever she says, he will not send her away. Therefore, it’s simple enough to indicate that you are interested in a guy. "
designer, 25 years old
I also feel the lack of men
for 27. There are a lot of young people
both at work and on the street, and you cannot see mature men
“I just recently noticed after myself that I was constantly hugging with the computer at work. I realized that I had to get out more often, and at Life around I just came to look for some event that I would be interested in going to. And then I came across these topics about men. I also feel a lack of men for 27. There are a lot of young people both at work and on the street, but no mature men can be seen. But I thought why, and decided that it was connected with my perception. That is, I didn’t I can imagine what adult men look like. The idea of who to pay attention to remains I’m from a young age, I’m already 25 years old, it's time to switch to more adults, but you still unconsciously consider them adult uncles.
So I came here first of all to see how they look, men over 27. But I don’t really expect anything from the meeting. Maybe I wouldn’t have come if I didn’t just want to take a walk in the park. Well, I need to get out somewhere other than work. "
26 years old, engineer
While I was walking here, I almost turned my neck: so many beautiful girls.
But I'm shy myself.
It turns out that I meet more often
in the Internet
"I read Life around, there such discussions started, and I was wondering where the young people got this problem - to get acquainted. I wanted to come and see how strangers behave, that is, with almost scientific interest. But don’t think, I don’t I’m looking down. With me are friends who themselves are always embarrassed, and here they sit aside.
I think that the problem is not where to meet, but how. You can meet anywhere. In the park. While I was walking here, I almost turned my neck: so many beautiful girls. But I'm shy myself. As a result, it turns out that I get acquainted more often on the Internet, there I am more liberated. In fact, I don’t see any difference between the Internet and real life, this whole meeting can be represented as one VKontakte page: people also sit and communicate.
I don’t expect much from this meeting, I just came to see how people overcome constraint. If I can overcome it myself and I will have some elegant acquaintance, it will be good. "
29 years old, specialist in an investment firm
Lack of interesting guys
still felt. Well, an interesting person can be at 18,
and very boring at 45
“In general, I can’t complain about the absence of men in my circle, I have a large company of friends, and its composition is 50 to 50. But I would like to expand my acquaintances, because my current friends are just friends.
I followed the topic with great interest about 27 years, read all the messages. There were a lot of evil trolls, they attacked the girl, probably, they did not quite understand her correctly. For me, age is not fundamental. I did not notice a problem with the absence of specifically 27-year-olds, but some lack of interesting guys is still felt. Well, an interesting person can be at 18, and very boring at 45. I think at such a meeting it is quite possible to meet someone, in general, there are quite a few nice guys, I hope we will not be disappointed. But we came here first of all to have a good time. "
28 years old, youth tourism manager
I did not come here in search of someone.
I generally like to go to different meetings, open events,
where you can make new friends
"I’m older than 27, I never thought that women feel a lack of men of my age. I think the problem is more that people generally feel lonely. I have no problem getting to know a girl, although now I am alone. But I didn’t come here in search of someone. In general, I like to go to different meetings, open events, where you can make new acquaintances.
People come here with an unbroken consciousness, they overcome embarrassment, they are open to communication. There are fewer barriers, less active ones can first sit on the sidelines, and then a conversation starts anyway, some general jokes appear. This movement, this life, is good. "
23 years old, business analyst,
founded the topic of where to look for men
I especially did not expect anything from my topic in the community. I did not think that there would be so much negativity. I thought that someone would really advise a couple of places where you can go
“I don’t think that the problem of men over 27 is a global problem. It’s rather my personal problem, because I have been living in Moscow for the first year. In Zelenograd I had my own party, friends who have exhausted themselves. And it turns out, that all year I had only work, sometimes meetings with old friends, but I could not make new ones, join the company.
I especially did not expect anything from my topic in the community. I did not think that there would be so much negativity. I thought that someone would really advise a couple of places to go, I expected everyone to ask why they were older than 27, but I thought that all this would be in a more neutral tone. On the other hand, this negativity made the topic popular.
In Moscow there is a problem in order to get to know each other. Beautiful girls evoke the idea that they already have someone. Young people are often afraid, because there is past experience and there are a lot of “blondies” around. And it turns out that normal, beautiful, kind girls should pay for the reputation that these “blondies” created. Although, on the other hand, acquaintance is always roulette. You can’t just come up and say: “Let's get to know each other”, it is necessary that many factors coincide. That you were open, it was open, so that between you something would be tied up at the level of sight. The problem, of course, is, above all, that there is contact. "
26 years old, engineer
You can get to know me anywhere, on the other hand, go somewhere on purpose to do this, not very realistic, in my opinion
“I don’t think that I could answer the question of that girl where I can meet a young man. On the one hand, you can get to know me anywhere, on the other - to go somewhere specifically to do this is not very realistic, to my sight.
But I don’t see anything special in the fact that the girl takes the initiative: the higher her chances of finding someone who suits her.
It seems to me that the city provides a million opportunities for dating. This is not a village where two men and three women live and there is practically no intrigue. But in the city, of course, more and more depends on the case, which you cannot control.
I came here because I, too, became lonely. And although I have not yet turned 27, I hoped that they would not expel me from here. "
34 years old, financier
I'm not embarrassed, this is not leprosy,
this is normal. To change something, you must first admit to the problem
"There are a lot of lonely people in the city, but confessing this is somehow awkward. I’m not embarrassed: this is not leprosy, this is normal. To change something, you must first admit to the problem. Here we are all gathered to unite. And if you don’t admit to anyone that you are single, then everyone will think “oh, this is beautiful, she probably has someone” or “this guy probably already has a wife and children”. There are about 40 people here, of course, we will not form 20 pairs at once, but at least there are people here who are pleasant to each other, who can even be friends. And this is already a good environment for the development of some further relations. Maybe someone will spark a spark. "
Photos: Maxim Listopadov