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"I’m urgently looking for a partner":
3 stories about sex and psoriasis

If you try to remember what you were worried about before the first sex, it would most likely turn out to be about something. Our heroes also experienced the fact that they have psoriasis. They don’t have to reassure themselves with the phrase “all the problems are only in our heads,” but to explain to each new partner that psoriasis cannot be infected, yes. For a joint project with the Pure Confidence community, they talked about how they went about their first time and what difficulties they had to face in their intimate lives due to illness.

Natalya

33 years

We have been together with psoriasis for 20 years. During this time, they tried to clear my karma, treated with electrodes, and wanted to hypnotize. From the age of 18, the disease began to progress. They said to me: "Give birth - everything will pass." During pregnancy, there really was a remission, but after giving birth, the disease began to develop with a vengeance.

Now I also have remission, but it seems that it is already ending. Before pregnancy, I had several partners, and, apparently, I was lucky with each of them. I warned all young people about the disease in advance, there were no sharp reactions to my psoriasis, no one shied away. But the first sex because of him is still always difficult: after all, a man wants to see a woman beautiful. On the other hand, for the first time, it’s already quite a disturbing event, so you don’t especially think about your psoriasis at this moment.

For me, psoriasis is just the outer self. I love my inner self, and I talk about the body like this: we will have to go through life together, so okay. I can’t get used to my illness. Of course, dislike for your body and desire to hide it interfere during sex. But feelings play an important role here. If they are, even you yourself will cease to see ugliness in psoriasis and feel yourself sexiest. But to work through these points, it may take a lifetime.

Natalya

33 years

We have been together with psoriasis for 20 years. During this time, they tried to clear my karma, treated with electrodes, and wanted to hypnotize. From the age of 18, the disease began to progress. They said to me: "Give birth - everything will pass." During pregnancy, there really was a remission, but after giving birth, the disease began to develop with a vengeance. Now I also have remission, but it seems that it is already ending.

Before pregnancy, I had several partners, and, apparently, I was lucky with each of them. I warned all young people about the disease in advance, there were no sharp reactions to my psoriasis, no one shied away. But the first sex because of him is still always difficult: after all, a man wants to see a woman beautiful. On the other hand, for the first time, it’s already quite a disturbing event, so you don’t especially think about your psoriasis at this moment.

For me, psoriasis is just the outer self. I love my inner self, and I talk about the body like this: we will have to go through life together, so okay. I can’t get used to my illness. Of course, dislike for your body and desire to hide it interfere during sex. But feelings play an important role here. If they are, even you yourself will cease to see ugliness in psoriasis and feel yourself sexiest. But to work through these points, it may take a lifetime.

Misha

21 years

I have had psoriasis for five to six years, but I got used to it quickly - about six months after I was treated. The first time I got plaque almost completely, and the last thing I thought about at that moment was my appearance. I was wildly uncomfortable due to constant itching, and I only wanted one thing to stop it.

There are enough complexes for a 15-year-old teenager, and so I'm glad I quickly realized one simple thing: people don’t pay as much attention to you as you do. And they don’t think about you as much as you think.

I had no problems in my personal life due to psoriasis. And no, this is not luck. If you have sex with someone you feel for, there can be no uncertainty. Put yourself in the place of another person: if the one you like is sick with something, does this change your attitude towards him?

Misha

21 years

I have had psoriasis for five to six years, but I got used to it quickly - about six months after I was treated. The first time I got plaque almost completely, and the last thing I thought about at that moment was my appearance. I was wildly uncomfortable due to constant itching, and I only wanted one thing to stop it.

To a 15-year-old teenager there are already enough complexes, so I'm glad that I quickly realized one simple thing. People do not pay as much attention to you as you do. And they don’t think about you as much as you think.

I had no problems in my personal life due to psoriasis. And no, this is not luck. If you have sex with someone you feel for, there can be no uncertainty. Put yourself in the place of another person: if the one you like is sick with something, does this change your attitude towards him?

Ksenia

27 years

Because of psoriasis, my whole life is divided into periods: when there is remission and when it is not. At the time of exacerbation, you do not get to know anyone, much less let anyone in the body. Then comes remission - you relax, open up, want to chat and get to know each other.

At this time, you try to be in time much more, you hurry to live, and it turns out that you are looking for a partner urgently. Actually, I also postponed the first sex at the time of remission, so it turned out to be random.

I still cannot accept and love myself during remission, although I understand that this is not normal. For example, due to another exacerbation, for a long time I could not get out of a painful relationship. I stayed with a person simply because I was already accepted and loved with psoriasis. It seemed to me that no one else would love me like that anymore. It turns out that I adjusted my personal life to psoriasis.

I do not warn partners about my illness. I basically do not want to talk about her. The phrase "hello, I'm Ksenia, I have psoriasis" at the first meeting - certainly not about me. I am from Moscow, I am a girl, and I know how closely everyone is watching each other here. Now I have a partner, we have been together for several months, and I decided to tell him about the disease only recently. During sex, I, like any girl, have a million thoughts: about how I look, how light falls, whether it’s sexy now. And for psoriasis with a trusted partner, it becomes all the same.

The Pure Confidence project supports people
with psoriasis in the fight against the disease.

On August 17 in the Sokolniki park there will be a picnic "Open School of Health and Confidence." Lectures of a dermatologist, psychologist will be waiting for you
and a nutritionist, as well as a small master class of the stylist.

The more people will know about the symptoms of the disease and go through
routine examinations, the more likely to detect psoriasis at an early
stage and take control of it.

Ksenia

27 years

Because of psoriasis, my whole life is divided into periods: when there is remission and when it is not. At the time of exacerbation, you do not get to know anyone, much less let anyone in the body. Then comes remission - you relax, open up, want to chat and get to know each other. At this time, you try to be in time much more, you hurry to live, and it turns out that you are looking for a partner urgently. Actually, I also postponed the first sex at the time of remission, so it turned out to be random.

I still cannot accept and love myself during remission, although I understand that this is not normal. For example, due to another exacerbation, for a long time I could not get out of a painful relationship. I stayed with a person simply because I was already accepted and loved with psoriasis. It seemed to me that no one else would love me like that anymore. It turns out that I adjusted my personal life to psoriasis.

I do not warn partners about my illness. I basically do not want to talk about her. The phrase "hello, I'm Ksenia, I have psoriasis" at the first meeting - certainly not about me. I am from Moscow, I am a girl, and I know how closely everyone is watching each other here. Now I have a partner, we have been together for several months, and I decided to tell him about the disease only recently. During sex, I, like any girl, have a million thoughts: about how I look, how light falls, whether it’s sexy now. And for psoriasis with a trusted partner, it becomes all the same.

The Pure Confidence project supports people with psoriasis in the fight against the disease.

On August 17 in the Sokolniki park there will be a picnic "Open School of Health and Confidence." Lectures by a dermatologist, psychologist and nutritionist, as well as a small master class of a stylist will be waiting for you.

The more people will know about the symptoms of the disease and undergo routine examinations, the more likely it is to detect psoriasis at an early stage and take it under control.

MATERIAL PREPARED WITH SUPPORT
outreach project

The goal of the project is to support people with psoriasis and help increase
health literacy.

MATERIAL PREPARED BY SUPPORToutreach project

The goal of the project is to support people with psoriasis. and promote literacy in matters of health care.

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